He’s Just Not That Into You
Sarita and I just spent three hours watching and discussing He’s Not That Into You. This movie is bad enough for a single gal, however living as an expat creates a whole new set of standards to go by. So….here’s a little jingle about dating in Korea. Attempting to date a foreign guy(one for the west) ultimately fails for these reasons:
1. Many are social rejects from home and if, in general, you would never consider speaking to them at home, don’t do it here! They’re still rejects. Except now, they get attention from Koreans, so they’re cocky rejects, which trust me, is the worst kind. Imagine your worst nightmare from high school, walking around, looking, talking to you, thinking he’s the shit. That’s enough to turn you off from men altogether.
2. They don’t want you, they want a Korean girl. This is frustrating at times, however, just think what it would be like if you lived in a land of beautiful men who found you to be the most attractive specimen around. Let’s face it, Korean women put much more effort into their appearance. I mean who doesn’t wear heels on a hike, or with sweats, or when your supposed to be playing sports?
3. They are in the military. These boys usually all have a girlfriend somewhere in the world. They drink too much. They are sketchy. They just want to have sex with you. And worst of all…they wear jerseys.
So now, the natural progression would be to move on to Korean men. I mean they are handsome and polite. But, they have their drawbacks too.
1. They carry purses. No not a murse(man purse)….a purse. You may be thinking….no big deal! That’s something that I can change. No, my friend, you cannot. It doesn’t just stop with the purse. They watch their figures..meticulously. They stare at themselves in the mirror IN PUBLIC, grooming for days. Some wear man heels. Most wear tighter clothes than any woman you know. After the initial “is he gay” ponder, you come to understand that he is not. The main problem is that they expect you to be this vain also.
2. You know what they say about Asian men……I don’t know….just throwing it out there. I’ll let you be the judge of that one.
3. They are sooooooo well-mannered. Korean guys…you got it going on there. However, when your manners turn into you letting us do only what you think is socially acceptable, then we have a prob. Pulling a shirt up at the chest, because you think it is too low at a dinner function, unacceptable. Telling us not to go somewhere, because it’s not ‘ladylike’, no thank you. Holding hands for the first 10 dates before a kiss, sooo middle school.
